Introduction ABOUT JAV Talking on the points we all think of internally, yet, seldomly raised to others except close friends (if ever). The underlying thread is just because you are feeling this now doesn’t mean someone hasn’t before. People have all had the same thoughts and experiences that no one talks about. That said, this…
JAV NINE – The Art of Sexting
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JAV EIGHT – Emotional Control
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JAV SEVEN – ‘Red Flags’
‘Red Flags’ JAV SEVEN In all honesty, it’s difficult for all of us to think about red flags without two things happening… …One, we all…
JAV SIX – Realistic Expectations
Realistic Expectations JAV SIX Picture this if you would… …The old reliable, that ageless, classic iPhone alarm bell going off. Your night table vibrating as…
JAV FIVE – His & Her Life
His & Her Life JAV FIVE This may seem obvious. As if it’s been staring you in the face like a series of US highway…
JAV FOUR – Your Actions & Expectations
Your Actions & Expectations JAV FOUR Say the word ‘projection’ or ‘projecting’ to anyone in any context of a relationship/seeing someone. The reactions will be…
JAV THREE – The Gym
The Gym JAV THREE The Gym can be a loud, busy, sweaty, medieval-looking space. Machines of all types, raw metal twisting in different directions, some…
JAV TWO – It’s In The Small Things
It’s In The Small Things JAV TWO Hopefully, by the end of reading this, there will be at least one nugget you keep or want…
When Things Happen
JAV ONE
It’s crazy how you can be completely fine one day or even have a ‘cloud 9’ type of day, literally feeling untouchable like a boss. And then the next, it feels like the world and everything around it is falling in on you. That last Jenga block snowballing everything.
Let’s reassure ourselves that there is absolutely nothing we can do to stop these waves from hitting us. Yes, you could say, “well, if I had been more proactive“, or “if I hadn’t been so stupid, I should have taken advantage when“…bla bla bla. The thing is, you can’t, and no one can plan, prepare, cover off or predict moments in our lives that seemingly hit us out of left field.
This happens to each of us. Some people show it, and some internalise it. Either way, it is a feeling and space all of us have gone through. This is a moment, not a permanent destination. That is an unspoken fact. The point is, you are not the only one this happens to, even when you think it is.
Your feelings are warranted, but don’t let them consume you, don’t shut down or disappear, but do take a moment to pause, breathe, and recompose/centre yourself. Then you can keep pushing on in (hopefully) a healthier and positive approach.
This doesn’t need to happen in a few minutes, an hour, or a day; allow yourself to go through your emotions and processes. Still, try to avoid letting this ‘process’ become a crutch or final destination.
To bring it full circle, keep going forward.
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